Getting older often (usually, hopefully) means getting wiser. (To that, my wisecracking son would say, “Wow, Mom, then you must be really wise by now.” He would probably follow that up with, “But you look young for your age, usually.”)
I’ve shared many of the following thoughts with my kids as they grew up. (Probably much more often than they would have liked!)
Things I wish I could tell my younger self:
- People are often paying much more attention to how they are coming across, looking,
sounding, etc., than how you are looking, sounding, or coming
across. Don’t be so self conscious!
- It’s O.K. to choose a career that is more creative or fulfilling than
- Life is not fair. At all. (Where in the world did that
concept come from anyway?) Life is life, and often, the most growth
comes from the toughest times. The default life is not the easy life. And that’s o.k. Skip the pity-party.
- DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, base your understanding about
medicine or politics or anything important on what you see, hear, or read in popular media. You often (usually) have to dig to get the real truth.
- Be more interested in other people than in yourself.
(I realize this is a variation of Number 1!) Listen to people. Don’t just be
formulating your next sentence while they are talking.
- Don’t agonize so much over your decisions. Make the best
decision you can at the time, and live well with it.
- DO NOT stop swimming laps, playing tennis, or
racquetball. Just because you aren’t on a structured team doesn’t mean you
should stop doing those things.
- Carmente’s Pizza will be closing when you are 31 , so
you should have their pizza delivered more often!
Do you make lists like this?